Self Magazine Big Breast Burden
March 13th, 2008
This will probably be our last post about the topic of women being burdened by big breasts. As Hiddenfeet moves towards more of a modeling and documentary website, we will link to fewer articles depicting breast reductions. No doubt breast reductions are a necessary evil in today’s world but the seemingly endless stories of women unable to cope with large chests does grow tiresome.
Remember, many young girls are NOT able to get reductions because of their age, religion or financial status. Breast-reduction surgery can be costly - about $6,000 - and insurance doesn’t always pay for the procedure. These are the young women Hiddenfeet wants to inspire the most.
This story is from the June 2006 issue of Self Magazine that is currently being posted on their website. It is about a woman who at age 11 wanted nothing but big breasts.
“Be careful what you wish for,” my mother, ample on top herself, always told me. “Big boobs run in our family.”
She writes that her breasts didn’t appear until eighth grade as her womanhood blossomed quickly. That summer before freshman year of high school, she bought 32B bras in pale purple at Victoria’s Secret. By September, she was a 5-foot-2-inch freshman with a DD-cup, try out for her school’s varsity gymnastics team. Sports, relationships, college and her career all become troubled by her enormous chest as she grows older.
“I hadn’t possessed the moral strength to be able to defy people’s assumptions about well-endowed women, to prove that we, too, could be both bodacious and brainy.”
Thanks, Sara. I agree that we should keep on a more positive note - that we’re just fine the way we are, thank-you-very-much :D
It saddens me greatly that these women view their large breasts as a burden. Reading that lie up top (not a typo! I really did mean to say lie, not line!), it says, “opting for surgery can save your self esteem.” Now that really gets me mad. It’s a lie to think that defiling your own body can save your self esteem. And it’s very insulting to think that having big boobs is a sin or an abnormality that should be hacked away. There are always people who love you the way you are. You should always remember that. And just because some people don’t think you can try out for gymnastics or athletics doesn’t mean you can’t!
Even though it would be a welcome relief to stop hearing from these stories of women who are unhappy with their large breasts, not hearing about them doesn’t make that problem go away. But on the other hand, I don’t really say any way to convince them directly, so I suppose that ‘out of sight, out of mind’ is the way to go for now.
I’m so glad I came across this site… I’m 19 and for years I hated my breasts so much. I was early to blossom and got teased so much, and got so much unwanted comments and attention, longed so far for a breast reduction but never pursued it. And slowly I got used to them and forgot to be so self-conscious and now I realize that they are just part of my body, there’s nothing wrong with their size; it’s just the way I grew. I think coming across your site really helped me realize this, reading about other people who are comfortable with them.
We’re given so many negative messages, told we look dirty or ditzy or dumb or unacceptable somehow; it is better to accept and love our bodies than to give in to this nonsense. Thanks for taking such a positive angle.
Well men like J and I will always think women “should be comfortable” with their bodies no matter how god created them - we are men, and well, voluptuous bodies are attractive to us.
But as this website shows, there are always extreme cases where surgery is best for the woman. My wife reduced her chest as part of a complete “body make over” and I gladly paid for the operation. She is still large chested but her boobs are now easier for her to deal with. I loved her before, I love her after, and will always do what makes her happy. At the end of the day, big boobs are still just excess fat, tissue, blood, and water.
Now here is the trouble!
My daughters are getting in the teen years now and showing signs of following in mommies foot steps. They are growing fast - Christmas was the first D-cup bra for both of them. I emailed you (Sara) a picture of Karen and Katie holding their new bras. They both talk about their mother’s reduction with more interest these days. I guess they worry about sports performance and what other girls think of them. The four of us have agreed that a DD will be tolerable and anything larger would be consideration for a reduction “if” they are 18-19 years old and their chests are finished growing. I will pay for it as long as the two of them are going to college with exceptional grades and still physically active and eating a healthy diet.
I have to be a father and create rules like these to ensure I am as fair as possible. My companies insurance does not pay for breast reductions and my wife’s procedure was about $5500. Sara you can kind of see how invaluable your website has been to my family over the last few years. Karen and Katie giggled at first when reading Hiddenfeet but much of what is posted really hits home now.
God bless you and everyone who helps and congratulations on your success!
Big breasts are a burden.. I have no idea what you all are experiencing but my experience was always horrible growing up.
I developed early.. in high school I was labeled the slut in school because i had a little waste blonde hair, with these large breasts. Everyone in school wanted to have sex with me because they wanted to see my breasts.
This was such a horrible experience for me because I was looked as an item. I buy bra minimizers these days because I cant even button up my blouse because it won’t button past my chest. My back hurts severely from my chest, i have horrible posture and pinched nerves. I cannot WAIT to get my reduction so that these huge enormous things on my chest wont be a burden to me anymore.
Okay, I do realize there are some breasts that are so huge that you don’t know how to handle them and it would be more preferable if they were smaller. But I think that some women out there are saying that even DD, E, or F are too big. I think that’s when you should tell them to accept their bodies as they are.
By becoming more fit and healthier, you’ll be prouder of your body, and by losing weight your breasts will be reduced. Also, I’d say that from exercising your chest muscles, your breasts will get firmer too since they rest on the chest muscles.
I have always felt both “bodacious and brainy.” My breasts have never been an issue in my life but my mother tought me to surround myself with “the right” people. We choose throughout life who we meet and how we deal with them. When we are young we choose who we sit next to in class, play with on playgrounds, and study with after school. Later in life we choose who we date, work with, and get intimate with.
Try this one day - See just how many people, positive or negative, we “choose” to be around. You will be surprised. I have had a few close friends make lists and they are always amazed at how much control they can gain in their lives by these choices.
I often wonder if my mother would have tought me this lesson if I was small chested. For that alone I will always be greatful for my large boobs and my mothers caring heart.
I was always called Big Boob Betty. I learned quickly that there are worse things to be labeled. Eventually girls started to notice that the more they called me this, the more boys would notice me so the name calling slowed in highschool.
I truely enjoy reading people’s comments on this website Sara. Thanks for everything you do here at Hiddenfeet! Keep it up! I live in Washington also.
I am one of those girls not able to get reduction because of cost. I live near Satakunta Finland and the nearest plastic surgeon charge 4500 american dollars for reduction. I am circuit training and loosing fat and my size is now D from E.
Taleyah, it’s great to hear that you have been circuit training and losing fat. Are your breasts now at the size that you want? I bet they’re firmer and healthier now too, right? I think more women thinking of getting reductions should exercise first before cutting themselves open.
And as for exercising, I came across a website for a sports bra known as Shock Absorber. Google “shock absorber sports bra” and you’ll find it. I believe it’s intended to help large breasted women exercise by reducing bounce by 74%.
I just looked some amazon reviews for a shock absorber and there were several people who had about 5 stars while others had 1 star. Then when I read one of the reviews it all made sense. This review said to avoid the American version. The American version is badly made. The European version is much better. I assume that the ones with 4 or 5 stars wore the European version while the ones with 1 star wore the American version.
Interesting discussion about breast implants AND reductions here.
IMO there are only two areas of girls lives that big boobs really become a burden with.
Social problems with the usual name calling and the “your a slut” image - and the second troublesome area is sports. Movement with many pounds of boobage in front of you is difficult.
But girls who complain about the first one need to be stronger. Would they rather be a burn victim and have scars all over their face and body? Would they rather be missing arms of legs? What about cancer and hair loss or muscular dystrophy? Having big boobs is NOT the most difficult social problem a girl could have. I grew large and proud and was able to control my feelings quite well when I was younger.
Now sports…well, sure I can see a reduction for this reason.
But other then that….what is it about big breasts that is really holding girls back? Having a fulfilling career? Having a happy family or relationship? Inspiring others and making a difference in the world? It seems like Sara is able to do these things!
Its all relative. How many times do women get reductions only to later get implants? How often do women get implants and then get them removed? We should spend time learning to love being real and natural whatever our size - then we would all be happy and be staying away from expensive doctors. I know girls 14 and 15 years old with big breasts who run and play well on my daughters track team. If they can handle it adults can imo.
Say what? Get reductions only to later get implants? That’s totally ridiculous. If I were them, I wouldn’t do anything at all and just stay large from the beginning.
As for the hf teens who can exercise just as well as their peers, I’d say that nobody told them they can’t exercise, so they just do it. I think that as a result, their bodies get more muscle that allows them to exercise as adults. However, hf adults from previous generations haven’t been exercising as teens, so they lack the chest muscles that enable them to exercise comfortably as adults. People often forget that their bodies adapt to physical stress. Getting sudden breast growth as a teen may be a bit unsettling at first, but over a few years, you’ll develop stronger chest and back muscles to support your breasts, I believe.
I think that the burden of big breasts is from the fear of sagging. Most girls think this could be the worst thing that can happen to the appearance of their breasts. This is why women with sagging breasts lose their confidence and try to seek immediate remedies.
Sagging of breasts is a very common condition in women with big breasts. Gravity takes runs it’s course and tries to pull the breasts downwards. If you are looking out for getting some remedies for your sagging breasts, then you need to know about some of the ineffective methods in the market. They are the various creams, sprays, and pills which promise to give firmer breasts. Most exercises don´t work with sagging breasts. Breasts are largely composed of fatty tissue. Exercise can help building up the muscle, but it cannot do anything with fatty tissue. I think the only thing that really works is to have a good diet and wear a fitted bra with plenty of support.